Without a head

The first night I fell with a high fever, vomiting through trembling teeth. My head was caved in from the high altitude I could feel death looming in and out of my veins. The next morning, I stayed in bed while the others wandered the town. I was extremely glad to have a comfortable bed with the hostel manager looking after me. He was lighthearted and I didn’t have the energy to say much. His Chinese name translated to “without a head”. His WeChat id had the tagline “always stay naive.”

It was Spring and the three of us had taken a 13hour bus ride to Seda for a taste of Tibetan culture. Seda, also known as Sertar, is a Tibetan county west of Sichuan in China. At nearly 4,000 meters elevation, Seda Monastery is the world’s largest Tibetan Buddhist school and houses up to 40,000 monks and nuns in dorms stacked across in a valley. The tiny lit windows spread a colorful mosaic that blends into the starry night sky.

The next morning, I was about 60% and decided to roam with the others. At dawn, we hiked up the mountain for a view of the valley where the monastery laid. Morning prayer was in order and clouds of incense smoke covered the valley. Fingertips freezing, the sun slowly peeked over the mountains and shadows began to stretch. We goofed around a bit then sat quietly with the sunrise. There was a cold stream in my belly.

We then made our way toward the monastery. I was woozy and grumpy while the other two chatted with the locals. Everyone was dressed in different variations of a brown and red cloak with a softness in their face. I spotted a cozy corner by the temple’s entrance and dropped for an overdue nap deep into my beanie and jacket. The cold air, fever, trembling body. I hated everything and somehow content. I had given up the will to change anything and had no regrets.

Next day we took a shuttle to the sky burial where vultures feast on the dead. It’s customary funeral for Tibetans, a morbid fascination for tourists. Six bodies had been laid and prepared in a pit for dozens of vultures to digest. Slowly birds swarmed in and tore away at the limbs. The thick smell of carcass waved around the funeral site while the birds frenzied in the pit; some flying overhead with wings blanketing the sun. Some were playing tug-o-war with the skin that wouldn’t tear. Near the end, a man with a butchers’ outfit walks to each skull with a knife and strikes a pounding blow at the base, cracks an opening and tosses them to the birds. They beaked into the brain as the jaw bone loosely opened and closed. I couldn’t help but see myself as an anonymous skull in that pit.

Same sun new day, head fevered and knees were trembling after a lengthy walk around town. We spotted a café and claimed a dim empty room with couches all around. We each took a full sofa and crashed from sheer exhaustion. Alina was cold and quiet. The window behind her was open with cool breeze coming in. Just as I got up to close it for her, Ree dashes for the window and slides it shut. She then falls dead on the couch. I drop my head and quietly start crying. I was drained and didn’t need a reason survey my tears but I felt relief. Maybe it was the emptiness inside and the kindness near. It’s like letting it stream down your face and grabbing at no wave because the ocean moves through us.

Meeting rage with vitality

Henry is in his alpha state of vitality and has been crushing it all morning. He’s feeling good and focused. He gets into his car and slowly backs out of the driveway. He can’t see the incoming cars so he goes extra slow. A white van passes. He brakes, and slowly begins again. A second car comes and gives Henry a fury honk, quite lengthy and pointless really. Henry gently brakes and turns to look at the driver and it was a dumb cunt. Just as rage swells up, Henry’s alpha is still near and offers a vision of empathy. With a slight turn of awareness, he steps outside of himself and sees through the eyes of the girl thinking, “Maybe she thinks I was trying to get in her way. What’s in her way? Who knows.” He drops it and resumes to alpha.

Vitality: primal state of well being.
Patience: knowing when to let it be.
Empathy: stepping outside of yourself.

14 ways to treasure time

Life is busy, continuously commanding attention from all sides. Amid the fierce conditions of work and life in general, how can one maintain a steady flow toward a simple aim and not be “too busy” to treasure time? How can we learn to not overcrowd our attention with unessential things? Learning to take a break is invaluable to add more joy and focus. Things can be overwhelming at times but things are also manageable with a mindful break routine.

Taking a break doesn’t degrade your work ethic. In an interview with Charlie Rose, Bill Gates talks time, “You control your time and just sitting and thinking may be a much higher priority than a normal CEO might realize. It’s not a proxy of your seriousness that you haven’t filled every minute of your schedule.” In the same interview, fellow billionaire Warren Buffett adds, “Time is the only thing you can’t buy. I can buy anything I want. But I can’t buy more time.” The three of them muse at Buffett’s calendar which has large chunks of empty space where he allots to doing nothing.

Like brushing your teeth, taking a break is good mental hygiene. No one likes bad breath. Similarly, nothing worthwhile gets done with a cluttered mind. The greatest gift we can offer anyone is our total attention. It quenches our thirst to connect. Knowing that I can be completely present with someone or that I can create cushion throughout the day to unwind is incredibly empowering. Here are 14 ways to mindfully unplug and maintain a healthy perspective:

1. Take a long and unhurried breath, feeling your stomach stretch like filling a balloon. Take a few more if it awakes your body ever so slightly.
2. Notice: true and real qualities you can appreciate in the room,
3. Notice what happens to your spine as you sustain a focused breath. Examine its features.
4. Notice: what’s the farthest thing you see in your immediate space. Examine its features.
5. Notice: what’s the closest thing you see in your immediate space. Examine its features.
6. Notice: what’s the farthest sound you hear in your immediate space. Examine its features.
7. Notice: what’s the closest sound you hear in your immediate space. Examine its features.
8. Notice: what’s the farthest thing you can touch in your immediate space. Examine its features.
9. Do a 1min drawing
10. Write a 1min letter to someone without needing to send it
11. Go for a walk
12. Thank someone by text or email.
13. Meditate for a few minutes: sit quietly and breathe.
14. Sit to actually taste and appreciate your next meal. Notice how your senses are turned on to the food.

A jab at social media

You don’t have to share everything. It doesn’t make you a lesser human being if you don’t share every grain of salt. Instead, mindfully curate content that speaks to your highest truth and excitement. Shock value and debasing an opposing side bare little to enrich content, or inspire an eventful life.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

The Superbowl of Mindfulness

25 points down in the 3rd quarter, the Patriots won with a record-breaking comeback, down the wire in overtime. It was a tight game throughout and exhilarating to watch. The intensity of the game was gripping, keeping many eyeballs zero’ed in. Amidst the shifts in momentum that occured, both teams were in the zone. Being turned on to that level of intensity redefines what it means to be present. There is an immediacy to the moment. The players’ bodies are responding in real time with the confluence of events happening 360. The players’ are not checking their phones or chit chatting about the past or future. Plans are developing in real time and responses are orchestrating to the emotional demands of the present. Down 25 points, the Patriots contained the intensity of the game and diligently dug themselves out of the hole, unshook by negative circumstance.

What if every moment is a super bowl moment? The way I think of mindfulness, at its best, is this way of paying attention with a dire intensity yet not swept away by it. It’s a process of keenly noticing, broadly acknowledging, and consciously responding, versus compulsively reacting. Mindfulness is present when the senses are full with a sheer aliveness. It could be when you’re doing something meaningful or creative. Mindlessness is present during phantom texts when we reach for the phone out of pure habit.

Living our Superbowl moments in the here-and-now is a gradual process of breathing, noticing, and responding to what is.

Crushing Uncertainty: Using Mindfulness to Inspire Creativity and Leadership

“Knowing others is intelligence;
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
Mastering yourself is true power.”
– Lao Tzu, Chinese Philosopher 12

The human mind is a sea of thoughts, emotions, and sensations. In one’s quest for meaning and wisdom, uncertainty is bound to arise. While rational thinking shields the unknown and races for quick answers, a poetic mindset befriends the present in its vastness. When the world gets complex and unclear, the mind can get stressed and overwhelmed. Yet when approached with acceptance and curiosity, complexity becomes a resource as the body’s aliveness guides the way to mindfully channel our emotions. This poetic way of mindfulness enables insight to deepen the connection with ourselves and others.

Unveiling aliveness

Each moment offers an opportunity to experience a symphony of feelings and sensations that carouse throughout our bodies: sensations subtle and strong, in streams and glows, raking along the spine, extending to the finger tips. There’s the looseness of your neck and shoulders, the cushiony warmth around the joints, or the hot fire in the belly before a presentation.

The Greek term for this inner noticing is soma, the body as perceived from within. In 1906, neurophysiologist Charles Sherrington introduced terms like interoception to chart the somatic nervous system. Interoception is knowing through a physiological sense of the entire body.4 In his pioneering work in somatic experiencing, Peter Levine borrows the term felt-sense which nicely represents the phenomenon.7

The modern-day parlance for this inward practice is mindfulness, which highlights the quality of one’s attention. Not its content, but its quality. As drawn from Buddhist origins, mindfulness is an awareness practice that consists of two parts: 1. noticing mental activity and 2. tracking sensations within the body: weight of the breath, beating of the heart, posture and heat flow along the spine – moods can be noticed and visited rather than ignored.9 While mental chatter may linger with guards and primed alarms, the fragrance of awareness itself gently hums.

The practice is not to justify one state over another but to continually rendezvous with the living presence of the body which in turn calms emotional pathways in the brain and regulates attention. 9

It’s like the noise of a ceiling fan that has been on for so long that only when turning it off do we realize it is there. Mindfulness is an invitation to diligently step back and notice the noise and possibly rejoice in relief. But the goal is not relief. The goal is to rest expectations and simply stay alert. As we continually observe our internal and external worlds, we notice the mind-body complex wheeling away without needing to react.

A mindful response

“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of the things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.” 4
– Antonio Damasio, Neuroscientist

Emotion is the unseen current that shapes human behavior, and it can enrich or stifle mental health. Even in simple activities like when using your smartphone, the mind sets off an array of emotions, including anticipation, insecurity, aggression, and amusement. As we habituate such moods, they can become compulsive and feed a circuit of addiction due to the brain’s release of dopamine, a chemical assigned to short-term pleasures. When driving, one might feel rush, rage, or calm. Emotions are always there in one form or another, being aware of them is another matter entirely. Emotional intelligence is a function of how we pay attention.4

Meet Ken. He’s driving to work and puts on some good music to relax during the freeway ride. A red sedan roars passed and cuts him off closely. This interrupts his state of flow and naturally arouses anger and irritation. He notices a tightening of his fist over the steering wheel and the clenching of his jaw. He pauses, drawing his awareness into his arm and hand. He softly scans the tension, slowly makes a fist, rolls out his palm, and unfolds an image of an angry hog on ice skates, slipping-and-sliding without control.

Just as he chuckles at himself Ken realizes the exit is fast approaching. Swift and watchful, he weaves through the traffic. A car behind him notices and slows down to let him pass. This brings Ken tremendous relief and gratitude as he takes the opening to his exit.

Anger begins as a physiological reflex and it is not necessarily a negative encounter. By untangling the reflex from the emotion, we can contain our primal shimmers.7 Had Ken been mindless, he might have reacted with rage and fixated compulsively, allowing it to color his mind and then carried it forward.

Thankfully Ken was attuned to an inner compass and unconfined by a fleeting emotion.
With a lightness of mood, ability to pause, and a fluid imagination, he readily shifts his focus onward. Moving through anger may not always be so simplistic, but mindfulness is the harvesting of this non-reactive yet ready state of attention, a way of processing our internal worlds and responding consciously.

Everyday mindfulness

While the practice of being present can be honed with yoga and seated meditation, mindfulness can be paired with any activity. Take coffee. When brewing it in the morning, you experience the beans onto your palm, the ensuing hot slow pour, and with the cup in hand there is a warmth that consumes you. Then taking the first sip that slightly burns the tongue, like tiny alligators in the mouth. It is glorious and for a moment our senses are full. For some of us it’s a daily ritual and so rich with poetic imagery.

The same kind of attention can be applied to dish washing. Adam Hanley at Florida State University found that engaging in mindful dishwashing can inspire positive emotions. His team gathered participants into two groups: the control group was asked to read a descriptive passage about dish washing prior to the wash, and the experimental group read a passage about the sense-experience of washing, including the smell of the soap, warmth of the water, textures of the plate, and so forth. After the activity, the mindful group reported a more positive state of mind (for example, being less anxious and more mentally inspired).1

“The faculty of voluntarily bringing back a wandering attention, over and over again, is the very root of judgment, character, and will…an education which should improve this faculty would be the education par excellence.”10
– William James, American Psychologist

UCLA’s Neurologist and mindfulness researcher Daniel Siegel teaches mindfulness as a state of being (as opposed to doing), a capacity to voluntarily notice emotional affairs as mental activity, not absolute reality. This level of discernment allows one to objectively monitor internal states rather than be defined by them, an attentive quality Siegel calls Mindsight.10

There is a Sufi saying, “the body is the shore on the ocean of being.”7 With an alert presence, we can become more attuned to the tides and ride the waves with a sheer aliveness.

The Irish poet David Whyte writes, “alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.”13 The process of turning our attention inward unveils the body as a living organism that is continually shoring up new thoughts, sensations, and emotions. What we discover within is a field of voluntary and involuntary events throughout the nervous system. And as we quietly appreciate the primal reflexes that are out of conscious control, we grow to be less overwhelmed by their presence. Paradoxically, the result is a greater capacity for choice and self-control.

Self-awareness and emotional states

Emotional intelligence, the ability to read and regulate emotions, occurs through the body’s intuition which offers a window into our primal states. As this field of awareness widens within, we grow to accept whatever emotions arise and swiftly move through varied states. Self-mastery is this adaptive trait of flow and flexibility that shapes our emotional landscapes and mental health.5

When faced with pressure or uncertainty, mindlessness stays frozen or reacts prematurely, whereas mindfulness confronts the emotional needs of the present. In a stressful argument for example, self-control arises with a variation of the following steps:

1. Take a deep breath: Let the airflow touch the floor of your lungs, oxygenate the brain.
2. Label the emotion: Labeling adds in the brain’s language center to help contain the heat. Acknowledge, “I feel upset” versus “I am upset.” The first label provides a cushion between you, the perciever, and the emotion. Where we were once consumed by the feeling, now we can notice it from a manageable distance. It is like tending to a candle and watching the wick burn, rather than getting lost in the crackling of the flame. The default label does not need to be negative or overwhelming, it can be a choice. And just like training a muscle, our capacity to choose grows stronger with practice. During a heated argument to determine who is right, a window of pause opens up, and now you might ask yourself, “Is it worth it to argue?” Advice from leadership expert and executive coach Marshall Goldsmith.3
3. Check in: Take a break and come inward to a felt-sense of the body in its wholeness. Gently scan what it’s like to have a body that beats and breathes. What tells that you’re upset? Throat? Gut? Is it tight or hot? Stay patiently with the raw sensations with an “OK-ness” and a soothing begins to blanket the stress.7 Breathe in the environment and become present.
4. Give thanks: Self-awareness means appreciating what you have. It is the foundation. Life gives endlessly and with a strong base, your gift joyfully overflows to share with others. Complaining and being ungrateful is like a cup with no base, it takes and takes with nothing to offer. What am I grateful for? What do I hold true in my innermost being? Where do I begin and end? Does a drop in the ocean need a map to get home?

From an initial state of agitation, gradually a window opens to move into choice and gratitude. This quiet process might seem boring and even difficult at times, but it works. It teaches discernment so that we become experts of our emotions by reflectively stepping back instead of being swallowed by a momentary feeling.5

As the shapers of our mental landscapes, we befriend the mind-body complex and self-organization naturally follows. What was once a struggle against overwhelming chaos becomes a conscious surrender to a living relationship with our primal senses.

Appreciating complexity

”Courage is a love affair with the unknown.”
– Osho, Indian philosopher

Among the emotions we encounter, confusion is perhaps most prone to weigh on a person’s ego, denting the idealized self-image. Say you have a strategy meeting with your team to layout a six-month plan in a rapidly changing market. If your goal is to be the smartest person in the room, which is not uncommon, then admitting confusion might disrupt your mood. The natural reflex might be to defend some arbitrary stance or disengage entirely. Neither is useful. The productive option is to mindfully engage the process in an intentional manner. Uncertainty is a fact of life and one’s true character is revealed in the way we contain chaos and respond attentively.

Tao is a Chinese philosophy that means the way. It operates on the principle of wu-wei, which translates to non-action. It’s not apathy or avoidance. It’s a broadening of perspective and trusting the process to let things occur naturally. The only burden is the mind’s armor. The founder of Taoism, Lao Tzu writes, “If you correct the mind, the rest of life falls into place.” 12

A rational-centered mindset deals in duality: good and bad, light and dark, fat and skinny, past and future. In Tao De Ching, truth and duality are written as follows, “The subtle truth emphasizes neither and includes both. All truth is in tai chi: to cultivate the mind, body, or spirit, simply balance the polarities.”12

While rational thought applies willful effort under pre-ordained beliefs, Tao is built upon unconditional action through a beginner’s mind. The wilderness stretches out forever, so rich, subtle, and complex. And to a quiet mind the world yields.

The real labor is in letting go of restful conclusions so to advance our innermost inquiries. The fruit of the work is “the bigger picture”, a quest-oriented mindset that gushes with an undying sense of purpose and reflective curiosity.

The idea of embracing complexity streams through the work of French Philosopher Jaques Derrida, who popularized the literary concepts of free play and think differently. Derrida points to the Greek term apolia, or impasse, a state of puzzlement. Whatever the inquiry, the answer may not be an absolute “yes” or “no.” It could be “yes and no” or maybe the answer is a different question altogether.

For Derrida, pleading “I don’t know” is not a blow to the ego but a sign of maturity. It invites us to step back, ask questions, defer judgment, and reframe our narratives. Otherwise we run the risk of confirmation bias, the tendency to seek evidence that supports what we already believe which leads to asking the wrong questions and ultimately blocking inspiration and insight.

Say one day you find a 6, and everyone tells you it’s “the number six.” Every day you tell yourself it’s a “six” and gradually you don’t even question it anymore. Everyone raves about six. It’s the talk of the town, until one day you accidentally drop your 6, and someone says, ”It’s a nine.”

“Oh, the cries of the rationalist,”2
– Gaston Bachelard, French Philosopher

Harvard’s Social Psychologist and mindfulness researcher, Ellen Langer marks two types of uncertainties. Personal uncertainty is tied to “I” and personal circumstances (ex. will I get the promotion?). The second is universal uncertainty, the inevitable mystery that binds us (ex. facing our impermanence on that final breath). We can plan the next year to the grain, but the reality is that tomorrow is never promised. There remains a margin of uncertainty that nobody can predict, and that can be scary.

But what if we did not have to insist on a selfhood to feel abundantly alive? In Sufism, there’s a term fana that means an absence of mind, an emptiness of selfhood.8 It is a deep state of acceptance, trust, and bewilderment with what is. The Sufi poet Rumi calls it an astounding lucid confusion.3 When self is boundless, poetry blooms.

Artfully present

Mindfulness is a psychological state that affords curiosity and activates the senses. It is a bottom-up process, meaning it begins with physical sensation, not mental abstractions. And the two states can co-exist. The problem is when we neglect our primal senses and commit to arbitrary self-delusions.
Freud’s great revelation in psychoanalysis was that the subconscious resides below the radar of rational thought. The undercurrents are misty and chaotic, and a psychologist serves to help navigate the uncharted and uncover emotions that are reflexively hidden beneath.

Free association is a commonly used top-down technique that begins with the level of thought to arouse dormant emotions lodged within. It is believed that by loosening rational narratives, unconscious memories can surface and be dealt with. It’s the classic image of an ice berg with conscious attention as the visible tip and the supermassive subconscious hidden from sight under the water. This submerging process in psychoanalysis is geared to retrace the childhood origins of one’s memories.6

As psychotherapy evolved in the 20th century, Expressive Arts (ExA) emerged as a creative, bottom-up approach to healing and mental health.3 Rather than treat emotions through a rational framework swayed by the past, ExA is a body-oriented method that confronts the present and nurtures the imagination.4 Whether through expressive writing, drawing, or role play, ExA provides an alternative model to decenter from the stuck narrative and mindfully channel emotions with a poetic range.

“Poetic form emerges out of a chaos which seeks its own shape.” 6
– Stephen Levine, American Philosopher

ExA is a therapy practice partnered with applications in social change. It is founded on a way of seeing called poiesis, Greek for knowing through making, where truth reveals itself through the shaping of something. Rather than reducing our worldviews to the tailcoat of past assumptions, poiesis is a discipline of the senses which celebrates an abundance of images and the formation of perspective.6 With a limitless imagination, we can engage our narratives mindfully rather than reactively.

Poiesis is not a motivational concept but points to the nonmotive of truth that comes forth seamlessly. For example, to understand our true strengths and talents we can examine the inner substance of our core identity. Instead of wrapping ourselves in a neat personality, we can throw our imagination forward and let it speak its own language. It’s not an act of ambition, but an inborn curiosity to discover what true potential lives through a fresh lens. The process can include the past, but it is not confined to it.

I grew up shy and timid, often struggled with social anxiety and speech impediment. Maybe mom leaving at the age of three had something to do with it. I had the fat fortune that she returned five years later and flew me from Iran to California.

I began to muse with writing as a teen because the written word was a way to freely reflect and connect with myself. It was not forced or contrived, and it did not matter what I was writing. I simply enjoyed the feeling that came forth, whatever it happened to be. I learned that the satisfaction comes in the way language is handled. Over the years, the inward quest led me to study various forms of meditation. These contemplative practices delivered me to the moment and inspired my relationships and career goals. And it is an ongoing process with a stubborn uncertainty.

Although mindfulness is grounded in an aware presence, it is not necessarily about making anything or applying the imagination. It is simply about being with the vast and confronting qualities of silence within ourselves. When we savor the pause between thoughts, we realize that self-sufficiency and healthy relationships exist in the here-and-now.

Expressive Arts promotes the added element of making to see things differently; and to mindfully engage the creative process with a range of play. Poetry is any form of self-expression that has emotional substance and invites the imagination. Whether writing, speaking, or brewing coffee, when the mind is present there’s potential for poetry. The form and range may vary depending on preference but it is the raw presence that makes a work poetic and emotionally moving. Consider a poem by Rumi:

No better love than love with no object,
No sweeter work than work with no purpose,
If you could give up tricks and cleverness,
That would be the cleverest trick. 3

Shaping a vision

In team settings, poiesis can inspire confidence to tango with uncertainty and to mindfully shape a shared vision. ExA lives at the interplay between participation and the work itself. Selfhood is unessential. Being authentic means leading a path that inspires you and others, so let us do what makes us come alive without hinging on fixed outcomes. And rather than dismissing our connection with emotion as touchy feely, we blend it as a broader intuition and curiosity. Voice, for example, contains a range of emotional signals and coincides with the art of listening and storytelling.

In team building workshops, I look to draw out the authentic voice that’s already there. In one exercise, I ask people to imagine that their company’s success has been featured in a column in Fortune Magazine. They are invited to write a page showing what that would look like and to sketch a drawing that illustrates the significance. I suggest, “The aim is not to be perfect or artistic, but to be playful and authentic. Do not make it about you, but what does the story want to reveal? How are customers and the community at large benefiting?”

In pairs, they are then asked to share the story in two rounds. First round, the listener pays attention normally to the words of the storyteller. In the second round, the storyteller shares the same story but this time the listener only hones in on the soundscape of the teller’s voice (pace, expression of emotion, pause, volume, high points, low points). Mindful listening is less concerned with the motives of speech. Instead, we offer the gift of acceptance and nonjudgmental curiosity, a foundation for trust-based communication.

Often it is said that the second round offers a more nuanced version of the story with more to build on. They then combine their stories and present it to the group, encouraged to be creative. Trust arises when the senses are full and a meaningful vision can strengthen it. The insight gathered from this exercise goes on to inform processes for implementation and feedback.

Art making can be defined as ways of expressing oneself through the senses, which brings us to the present moment. Mindful listening is a selfless activity that enables trust, empathy, and a maker’s mindset to flourish. To drive innovation, David Kelly, designer and founder of IDEO, calls on a bias toward action which is less interested in skill than a sensitivity with the process.11 In other words, an artist is simply one who devotes himself to the contemplative practice of making. Uncertainty is a beloved companion and a true professional may quietly deem himself an artist in his or her craft.

Conclusion

Poetics of being is a paradox in that it’s a creative process of non-activity, continually responding with a beginner’s mind. The poet Mary Oliver writes:

When I walk out into the world, I take no thoughts with me. That’s not easy, but you can learn to do it. An empty mind is hungry, so you can look at everything longer, and closer. Don’t hum! When you listen with empty ears, you hear more. And this is the core of the secret: Attention is the beginning of devotion.” 9

Alertness is a quality of mind that carouses through the body. It’s not so much about controlling the thought-emotion-sensation complex but containing it with a mindful presence and poetic range. Expressive Arts draws on this mind-body partnership to cultivate self-mastery and creative insight. It may not always be easy but like the Irish say, “you don’t just lick it off a rock.” With devoted practice an emotional maturity ripens and it begins with silence in mind.

 

Arya Salehi is a people developer and author of the book Threads: Turning Discomfort into Joy. He lives in San Diego, California.

 

References
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5. Goldsmith, Marshall. Mojo: How to Get It, How to Keep It, How to Get It Back If You Lose It. 2010. Hatchette Books.
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12. Tzu, Lao; Tao De Ching
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The foundation of self-awareness

Self-awareness means appreciating what you have. It’s the foundation. Life gives endlessly and with a strong base, your gift joyfully overflows to give to other. Complaining and being ungrateful is like a cup with no base, it takes and takes with nothing to offer.

What are you grateful for?

When are your moments of magic?

When I ask people this question, they chuckle and really take time to reflect. One respondent, a professional boxer, said, “The question stirs something in you.” For whatever reason, people don’t picture a rabbit in a hat. There is a moment of pause where people step back and visit an inner affair. From upward of fifty or so responses, people describe their magic moments as positive states of connection and courage.

For the boxer, it’s when he steps into the ring. For the office worker, it’s when she connects with a stranger. For the gay man, when he decides to come out of the closet. For a writer, when the pen touches the pad. For the entrepreneur, when she conquers the fear of public speaking. It’s those moments we feel alive and emotionally present.

More to come on the developments of this research.

Poetics of psychology

Psychology is the unfolding of the questions we ask ourselves in the underbelly of our own spirit, revealing the raw traits of a human kind, at the interplay of all things magic, in between silence and those fleeting gestures, gently gushing from the pupils.

In those moments, I feel most alive.

You got a a lotta room brah

Reading a book in my car and a guy is trying to parallel park behind me. dude’s got alot of room to work with, like 5 cars length, but after an initial bad lean he struggles to slide in as though its a tight space, so he bumps my car three times in the process. not sure if he knows im in the car, i get get out to examine the challenged fellow. i tell him “you hit me 3 times, you got a lot of room to work with bra,” gesturing to the space he has. he gets out, apologizes and asks if there’s any damage. i said, “na no worries, but you got a lotta room brah.”